Breaking Generational Patterns Can Feel Lonely
Breaking generational patterns
Can feel
Lonely
When something has been the ‘norm’ for generations
It feels intimidating to speak up
Scary even
You feel like you’re the crazy one —
And a society that is not open to change would support that notion
Could we blame society?
The ‘norm’ was what kept people in their place
To not touch the system, to not keep anyone accountable
All in the name of so-called ‘peace’
When breaking generational patterns
Though it may feel like you are grasping around in the dark
I would like to remind you
That you are progressing, still
Not gonna lie to you,
It’s hard
It involves working through trauma, insecurities, fears, doubts —
All to defeat a pattern practised for generations despite its toxicity
If this is the position you’re in
I am sorry
My heart hurts alongside you
We are all fighting ‘norms’ that shouldn’t be
Whether it be fighting
Laws that divide us
Generational patterns incurring years worth of hurt and prejudice
An unfair stigma, labels insistent to keep us quiet and complacent
And starting within ourselves
— the fight of our very own denial and complacency of what was